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What About You?
At this time, you may find you are so busy being a caregiver that you are not looking after your own health. Remember, it can be difficult to care for another when you don’t care for yourself.
Self-Care Suggestions
• Ask for and accept help with care, household and other tasks (e.g. phone calls, shopping).
• Find ways to handle updates and enquiries (e.g. use email, designate a friend).
• Notice what gives you comfort or pleasure (e.g. time with others, reading, nature).
• Remember to breathe, to eat and to sleep.
• Set limits and say no when you need to. Let others know how you are doing.
• Don’t ignore the humour and beauty in life.
• Share stories and memories.
• Acknowledge this is a difficult time. Remember that everyone (including you) is doing their best.
• Do anything that feels like self-care (e.g. massage, haircut, nap, walk, sit quietly, cry).
• Maintain your spiritual and religious practices.
• Sing, play or listen to music that comforts or uplifts you.
• Consider participating in Caregiver Night Out Program (ask the clinical staff how to register).
Saying Good-bye
For many people, saying good-bye is very important.The person who is dying, as well as friends and family members, may wish to express their love, gratitude and sorrow to each other. Some people may say goodbye through conversations, letters, trips, rituals, or simply by being together. Some dying people are most comfortable with having people around, while others are more at ease with quiet and privacy. Sometimes a person seems to choose the time to die, perhaps when alone or when particular people are present.
You may wish to:
• Talk about shared experiences, offering and receiving love.
• Offer or ask for forgiveness.
• Remember that tears are a natural and healing release of sadness.
• Reassure the dying person that you and your family will be okay.
• Choose a funeral home if you have not already done so.
At the time of death:
You will notice that the person’s
• breathing and heartbeat have stopped
• eyes are not moving and may be open or closed
• mouth may fall or remain open as the jaw relaxes
• skin becomes pale and waxy looking
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 End of Life

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