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 What should you include?
Order of content
 • A brief introduction of yourself, your relationship to the deceased
• Personal stories – anecdotes, favourite poems, songs... anything that relates as true to your loved one
Decide on the tone?
Do you want the tone of your speech to be solemn? Or maybe lighter, possibly even humorous?
Or do you want a balance of the two?
Life itself contains both joy and sorrow and laughing through tears can be a true reflection of this.
Ask yourself.... what your loved one would have wanted and be guided by your answer.
Be assured that there is no “right” or “wrong” way. This is a decision for you, the family and friends to make.
If you are speaking on behalf of others then ask the family, friends and work colleagues for their recollections and stories that you can add to your own.
Subjects best avoided
A eulogy should be honest without dwelling on negativity. It is an opportunity to honour someone; even the most difficult personality or life will have some aspects worthy of celebration.
Collect together the materials you want to include in the eulogy and plan the order of how you wish to convey your message.
A simple format would be:
• Introduction – who you are and your relationship to the deceased
• Main body of the eulogy – personal stories relating to the deceased, their favourite poem or song, and possibly
a reading from their favourite book. Choose items that give a true reflection of the person, so that the mourners are able to relate to the message.
• Conclusion – a reinstatement of the theme of the message
Once you have written a draft try reading it out aloud, it is also useful to have someone else listen to you.
Does the material flow from one subject to another?
Are the opening and closing remarks fitting?
Are you repeating phrases? If so, either omit some of them or try to use other words to say the same thing.
Make sure the eulogy doesn’t ramble, there is no set time allowance and so it is better to cut your speech down than to allow it to go off topic.
Once you have practiced and edited the eulogy a couple of times and you are happy with it then keeping a printed copy is advisable.
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