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 funeral director
Few of us are really prepared to plan and carry out funeral services for someone we love. When the need arises, with some guidance, most of us can arrive at the kind of ritual that is most appropriate, recall some favourite passages or music, identify those appropriate to officiate or participate, notify friends and contribute to other decisions that go into creating a personalized, meaningful memorial. But, where do we start and how do we know we’ve accounted for everything?
Particularly under these circumstances most of us are not well equipped to manage the sometimes complicated logistical details behind all these things and difficult to anticipate the sheer volume of small but crucial steps in the process from identifying and coordinating facilities, vehicle needs, musicians, caterers and others, to arranging notices, accepting condolences and memorials, completing paperwork, seeking authorizations, accessing merchandise, and, of course, the care of the deceased. And it all has to be carried out at a very difficult time when our attention needs to be on caring for ourselves and those around us in the midst of grief.
Make no mistake, family involvement is vitally important in steering the process to ensure that the services are a suitable tribute and a meaningful experience that helps families and friends acknowledge their loss and begin the process of healing and adapting to a new reality.
The role of a professional funeral director is to work in partnership with the family to guide them through each necessary step, carrying out their wishes, coordinating their plans and managing every possible detail. In this way the family can focus on supporting one another, comfortable in the knowledge that the funeral they want is what they will receive.
Our dedicated and experienced staff are intimately familiar with the entire funeral planning process, all of the key decisions a grieving family must make, the resources required to fulfil their needs, the necessary legal documentation and the many options each family has to create services that will offer them comfort, meaning and hope. Your funeral director’s skill set is broad; he or she understands the practices of a range of rituals, is familiar with the preferences of clergy and celebrants, knows the perfect soloist, the easiest route to the cemetery, and just the right words to comfort and console. And, if there is something special that will make your experience just a little bit better, we will go to great lengths to try to make it happen.
When you meet your funeral director to arrange services we will collect a variety of information. Some of it is for official records, some to assemble an obituary, and some to help in planning the services. We often find that this process serves another purpose as well. It is often helpful for families to think and talk about the life of the one they have lost. It can inspire the memories and stories that are often the first steps in healing and the building blocks of a ‘good funeral’.
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