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 Regardless of the manner or place you choose for a gathering, we strongly recommend that you ensure your family has the opportunity to benefit from the sense of community, the collected memories, the tears,
number of receptacles (urns, large and small, jewelry with special compartments, and other options) allowing several family members to have them. Many families, however, still choose to bury some or all of
the laughter and the love of all of the people who shared the life of their loved one and who share in their loss. On the topic of community: most of us touch more lives, in more ways than we know, and those people grieve too. The most common expression of that grief, and their gratitude for the relationship they had with the deceased, is to reach out to the immediate family to share both their sorrow and the wonderful memories they have. Or perhaps it’s just a warm handshake or hug but, either way, those outside the immediate circle want those within it to know they care and want to honour their relationship by supporting the family. Gathering in times of grief is one tradition we should all value.
Our arrangers will be happy to help you explore the possibilities and arrange the event or events that will be most beneficial to your family.
Most people come to us with a sense of how they wish to have us care for and prepare their loved one but not necessarily with an understanding of all the alternatives and considerations. The choice between cremation and the traditional burial of the casket will come to mind first for most people and that, of course, is a necessary consideration but there are additional decisions to be made. As an example, in New Brunswick there is legal requirement for a 48-hour waiting period following a death before cremation can take place. This can obviously affect the timing of other arrangements but cremation also means that there are fewer time concerns when it comes to delaying services after the cremation, to allow for distant family members to arrive for instance.
In addition, not everyone is aware that cremation can take place after a period of visitation and a service or in between the two, if the family would like the casket present at either of those occasions.
Interment (generally earth burial) is obviously a requirement without cremation but cremated remains may be retained by family either temporarily or permanently. They may also be split between a
the cremated remains in a traditional cemetery or inter them in a columbarium (a wall with sealable niches or compartments designed to hold one or more urns). Many cemeteries now have columbariums on their grounds.
Scattering of cremated remains in a favourite outdoor setting or at sea is a less common choice but certainly a possibility. There are practical, ethical and legal factors to be aware of when considering scattering but your arranger can advise you on any necessary arrangements or approvals.
Where a family prefers traditional burial of the body, arrangements must be made with a cemetery. Many families have prepurchased plots but our staff are familiar with most cemeteries in and around our region if you require guidance. The purchase of a cemetery plot is typically a separate transaction between the family and the cemetery. Your funeral director will arrange the opening, closing and dressing of the grave site in preparation for a burial of either a casket or an urn. Because of our climate it is not always feasible to arrange the opening of a grave during the winter months. Our community has facilities for the storage of closed and sealed caskets until cemeteries commence operations in the spring. We can arrange this on your behalf.
It is common for people to have questions about the nature and necessity of embalming. Embalming is a key element in the process of preparing the body for viewing at a visitation. In its entirety that process includes the cleansing of the body, the replacement of fluids with chemical preservatives to delay the natural decomposition process, and fixing features and hair and applying cosmetics to restore an appearance comfortable to the family. Embalming also helps ensure the health and safety of those in the presence of the body. This is typically required for an open casket visitation but not always necessary if all that is needed is a brief viewing for identification purposes. Your funeral director will be pleased to offer further explanation of what might be required in any particular circumstances.

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